Stop Hitting The Snooze Button In Your Life!

Stop Hitting The Snooze Button In Your Life!

I’m a snooze button fan. Every morning, my alarm goes off and I hit snooze every 5 minutes. Sometimes I do that up to 45 minutes. It’s crazy but it’s what I do. Why even bother setting an alarm if you’re just going to ignore it? One might ask, “why not just set the alarm for the time you are going to get up?” Good question. I don’t know the answer to that one.

A few weeks ago, at church, we started a new series at church called “The Walking Dead”.  One of the key points from the message talked about how we just go through life hitting the snooze button instead of living life to it’s fullest.

I began to think about all the times in my marriage and life that the alarm was going off and I just kept hitting the snooze button.  “I’ll deal with that later” or “I just can’t deal with this right now” and keep snoozing.  Maybe it’s just a false alarm and I’ll “monitor” the situation for a while, right?

Wake up, sleeper!

How differently would life be if we RESPONDED to the alarms in our life rather than IGNORING them?

I’ve heard story after story from men whose wife had left them.  They admit that they had been completely oblivious to the alarms that had been going off in their life.  Reflecting back, they begin to piece together where they missed the alarm or were hitting the snooze button.

I saw a post on Facebook the other day from a person that thought the oil dipstick was broken in their car and needed to be replaced.  They stated that it wasn’t long enough to reach the oil anymore.  It didn’t take a few minutes for someone to enlighten them that there was nothing wrong with the dipstick, they just needed to add more oil to the car.

You would think that the check oil light (alarm) would have given this person a clue.  However, some people just don’t pay attention and keep snoozing until there is a problem that cannot be resolved.

Rarely ever, in marriage, do disasters happen to you where there was absolutely no warning that the impending doom was upon you.  We just keep ignoring the signs.  Our doctors tell us that we need to adjust our eating habits and exercise or we’re going to have health issues and then we’ll stop for pizza after we leave the doctor’s office.  Some years later, we end up on medication or worse and wonder “How did this happen to me?”.

We really just need to WAKE UP and PAY ATTENTION!

Resolve within yourself to make a Change

Stephen Covey said, “You can’t talk your way out of something that you behave your way into”.

We have to alter the behavior that keeps us from dealing with the alarms in our life.  We ignore the areas that we need to address in our lives and then attempt to talk our way out of them.  It just doesn’t work.

I’m entering a new journey in my life.  I have some minor health issues.  High blood pressure and high cholesterol have crept into my life because I have ignored the signs.  In the coming weeks, I’ll be working diligently to alter the behaviors that have brought me to this place.  I have to retrain myself to stop hitting the snooze button at 5:00 A.M. so that I can get to the gym before work.  That also means that I have to go to bed at a decent hour and say no to some things.

I have to accept the fact that fast-food needs to be replaced with healthier options.  I have to ensure that I prepare my lunch in advance.  It’s a behavior problem.  All behavior problems are learned and therefore can be unlearned with faithful commitment to change.

Ephesians 5:14 “Wake up, sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”

This scripture has a new meaning in my life.  I’ve been sleeping too long and it’s time to wake up and allow Christ to shine on my life.

Be blessed,

Tim

The Unexpected Realities in Marriage: Part 4 – Intimacy in Marriage

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This week we are going to expand on Great Sexpectations, and talk about Intimacy in Marriage. We want to keep our conversation focused on progressing forward in your relationships and not getting bogged down in guilt and shame.  Guilt and shame are not of God but are used by the enemy to keep you from reaching your full Godly potential in your marriage.  The Holy Spirit convicts us of sin in order to lead us closer to God; not to bury us under the weight of our sin.

Everything God created, He did for a specific purpose and called it good.

God created sex!  It is not dirty or taboo.  It is not some forbidden act that God allows us to do, while He turns His back.  It is also not intended for the exclusive use of reproduction. Reproduction can be a result of intimacy in marriage but it is not the sole purpose of it.  God looked at all that He created and said that it was good. He created man and woman with the physical ability and desire to be sexual and still called it good.  Sex is good! God said so and He cannot lie. Continue reading

The Unexpected Realities of Marriage: Part 3 – “Great Sexpectations”

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We continue our discussion this week on expectations vs reality.  We are going to branch off into the area of sexual expectations that we will call “Great Sexpectations”.  I know all too well that this is a taboo subject in our culture (Christian America).  The varying opinions concerning the sexual topic are as numerous as the stars in the sky.  Though we do our best to not be offensive, we will not apologize for speaking the truth.  We will be speaking very openly to ensure that we are clear in our message.  Let’s get started.

How do we develop our sexual expectations before we get married?  

There is no doubt that everyone has some kind of expectation, as they enter marriage, about what the sex life should be like.  There seems to be some natural phenomenon built into human nature to attract to a partner sexually that begins with puberty.  Certain body parts begin developing in a new way and our hormones start driving themselves.  Obviously, the experience differs between males and females and also varies within the same gender role. But, something is certainly changing in our bodies in this period of our life. Continue reading

The Unexpected Realities in Marriage : Part 1

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Most of the struggles and disappointments that have taken place in our marriage have dealt with the difference between expectations and reality.  We have had many conversations, in our relationship building process, dealing with the gap between these two points.

We enter into a relationship and both parties have a set of predefined expectations about how the relationship should be.  Sometimes, you may not even be aware of your subconscious expectations but they are there.  In our dating relationship, we spent no time discussing any of our expectations about marriage, family, money, kids, sex, where we were going to live, or anything else. We were only focused on dating and getting away from our parents.  However, we both brought a lot of expectations into our marriage and immediately began to have issues, when the honeymoon phase was over.  We did not understand why our reality was so different from what our expectations about the marriage should be. Continue reading

Our Story: Not really high school sweethearts… – Part 1

Heather and I have vastly different stories to tell from this time period of our lives.  We were in two completely different mental and emotional states.  We have decided to tell this segment of our lives, and perhaps others, separately in order to give a clear perspective of the stage from which we launched our lives together.

(Tim’s Perspective) Continue reading

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