The week we’re going to discuss the raising of children. We consider them to be part of the unexpected realities, in marriage. Most parents are not prepared for the changes that children add to their life. In our experience, the girls shocked and surprised us more than they ever created any real heartache. They came up with twists and turns that we are not sure any parent could prepare for in advance. As a couple, we had to learn how to unify our front in dealing with them. Continue reading
This week we will take on the subject of divorce. It is a big nasty topic that affects 1.2 million marriages annually in the United States alone. No one is immune to its sting and a large percentage of people have been through a divorce or have family members who have been divorced. Divorce is like a war. Though both parties involved may survive, nobody wins and everyone loses.
In 1991, we committed our lives to Christ. I (Tim) began working in the ministry, within a year, as I had felt the calling from God. In 1994, I became an ordained minister. I served the church through music ministry and youth ministry. Continue reading
We continue our discussion this week on expectations vs reality. We are going to branch off into the area of sexual expectations that we will call “Great Sexpectations”. I know all too well that this is a taboo subject in our culture (Christian America). The varying opinions concerning the sexual topic are as numerous as the stars in the sky. Though we do our best to not be offensive, we will not apologize for speaking the truth. We will be speaking very openly to ensure that we are clear in our message. Let’s get started.
How do we develop our sexual expectations before we get married?
There is no doubt that everyone has some kind of expectation, as they enter marriage, about what the sex life should be like. There seems to be some natural phenomenon built into human nature to attract to a partner sexually that begins with puberty. Certain body parts begin developing in a new way and our hormones start driving themselves. Obviously, the experience differs between males and females and also varies within the same gender role. But, something is certainly changing in our bodies in this period of our life. Continue reading
Disagreements on how to manage money are one of the main reasons couples argue. We have counseled with many different couples over the years, and this area becomes a wedge dividing them.
We are no different than most other couples. We have had a lot of issues in our marriage dealing with managing money, budgeting, over-spending, and savings. To be perfectly honest, it was not until our 15th year of marriage that Heather and I fully settled our differences with money. Continue reading
Heather and I have vastly different stories to tell from this time period of our lives. We were in two completely different mental and emotional states. We have decided to tell this segment of our lives, and perhaps others, separately in order to give a clear perspective of the stage from which we launched our lives together.
(Tim’s Perspective) Continue reading
Welcome to Life Travelers. We are Tim and Heather Key and over 26 years ago we said “I Do” and
“We Have” ever since. It has been our heart’s desire for many years to help other’s experience the joy that we have found in marriage. We get asked all the time, “How do you do it?” and the answer to that questions is always the same… We work at it!
If you know us in real life, then you know that Heather and I appear to be a newlywed couple or like we are a dating couple. We learned the hard way that dating and working on our relationship throughout our married life is one of the most important things that we, as a couple, need to do. In fact, we go out on dates more now than we did when we were actually a dating. We just love being with each other more than anything else and God’s grace and mercy allows us to shine God’s light in a world dominated by divorce and broken families.